After a breakup, I think it's pretty common to want to spend your time finding yourself. It's hard to be completely uninfluenced when you're in a relationship, and that can be scary. I mean, what musical tastes are actually yours versus your partners? What television shows do you genuinely love as opposed to the ones you grew to tolerate?
I totally get wanting to find yourself. To cleanse yourself from the past; to start afresh.
But why not allow some of those influences into your life? Why be afraid of finding a new band to love? Falling for a tv show you adore but wouldn't have watched of your own volition?
I think one great part about dating someone is that it opens you up to new experiences. Through dating I discovered my love of atonal music, The Walking Dead, and countless things that I can't remember. Because now, I don't associate these things as having come from an outside source--they're just a part of my personal taste.
It's easy to want to hold on to your independence and avoid any cultural influences. But maybe that's just a part of finding yourself. Who says you have to find yourself on your own? Why not use others as a jumping off point?
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